On Gaslighting 💭

Gaslighting has become a buzzword, which is unfortunate because it is a very specific and dangerous form of abuse.

Gaslighting is telling a person they don't feel their feelings or don't mean what they say. Denying basic, objective facts ("you don't really feel that way", "you don't mean that", "I wasn't late", "you never told me that")

Gaslighting is not just expressing a different opinion on an issue, or having different feelings about the same situation.

Mocking a person's response to a situation is also not gaslighting, it's just classic bullying. Of course, all forms of bullying have the same goal ‒ siphoning power from the victim to the abuser. Emotional abuse is about delegitimizing a person's